In this live document I share my assumptions, revelations, emotions and thoughts. Itincludes insights from my work, as well as reflections about life. It is open to your comments andI welcome any good conversation it may inspire/spark. Looking forward to hearing from you.
Pretty simple self-check: If any belief/ideology of mine creates and/or amplifies hatred and anger towards any living creature… Then I either got it wrong, or I believe in a wrong. (April 4th, 2021)
One of the best positions is to be the first follower of a leader and movement. You don't have the burden of leadership, yet you’re influential enough to satisfy your ego. It is quite hard though, since it requires an ultimate sense of freedom and self-confidence to surrender yourself to something that has not proven itself to be safe and comfortable. Hey ı lıke thıs
True comradeship is to be each other’s leaders and (first) followers at once.
Grief is an opportunity to connect with your deep and true self. Embrace. Allow it to become a portal to the only thing you truly have: now. Observe yourself, be calm and patient. Silent. Slow. Witness. That’s all. You will be challenged, yet it evolves into peace by time and be replaced by a strong yet calm peaceful awareness towards what external world still has to give you: good and bad, old and new, joy and sorrow - all at once and same: More mirrors to see yourself fully naked, the very existence that is timeless. Thus you the joyful adventurer is back on your feet, ready for the next cycle. Stronger and more connected than before.
Life is a constant failure. We’re far away from our bestself, perfect behaviour, thoughts, habits and love. Failure is not when we don’t achieve our always-mediocre “targets”, it’s the very nature of existence itself. If everything is a failure, so that means, there is no failure. It’s all about failing good and with learning. And with dignity, skin in the game.
Getting into and then losing intimate relations, romantic ones for instance, are great opportunities to get to connect better with yourself. Becoming better friends. Have the courage within your deep-self to use these opportunities, instead of ignoring the truth that is ready to be explored in your core. Instead of blaming or regretting. What you’re gonna find there is of great value for your life journey.
I shall marry the woman I feel the strongest and most warming urge to serve.
Life is based on imperfection. Life in biological, spiritual, social, existential… in every sense. Even if perfect is perceived for a moment, it would be gone away the next. Perfection can only be found in the imperfection - and surely it’s there. For that, one needs to establish its relation with her senses. You start establishing yourself, then go out and serve with a big smile, strong fists, calm mind - acknowledging everything in the now. Dreaming and hoping for everything for the next moment, yet without any expectation. You’re a wise warrior now.
A change-maker has to improve three capacities in balance: Seeing things in advance (“pattern reading”), creating the capacity to start acting, and managing the flow through the dancing steps of making and allowing.
Being good at the first makes you a visionary. Being good at second makes you a leader. Being good at third makes you wise.
It is almost impossible to be good enough at all three. Thus you need to learn to do the same with people: See whom to trust, let them involved in the right way, and enable them to own & manage their own spaces in harmony with others. Doing this loop in an positive feedback loop and here it emerges: you have a self-organising system. You then just witness it from a distance, with appropriate level of support and supervision.